BPD & Parenting

People with BPD are at greater risk of having difficulty parenting. It is hard to be an effective parent when you are struggling with BPD symptoms, and it does not help if you did not have good parenting models yourself.



While there is nothing you can do about genetics, if your kids live with you, there is a great deal you can do about environmental factors. And, there is evidence that environment has a very strong influence on whether or not people with the genes for BPD actually develop the disorder.



Not only do parents need to be able to provide their child with food, clothing and shelter, but also teach their child about social skills, problem-solving skills, appropriate behaviour and emotional control.

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If a parent is struggling with these things themselves, they won’t be able to be a very good role model for their child.

If you ’re a parent with a mental illness and need some support, or worry that your child is being disadvantaged by your illness, it’s important you try and get help.


This is especially important if you feel you need to spend time in hospital, are becoming violent or losing control, or are finding it difficult to cope financially.

People with BPD can be very effective and nurturing parents, but because the symptoms of BPD can be very intense, for many it does take some work.​
There are usually parenting skill classes available locally - ask your doctor or health worker for more information if you feel that you could benefit from some guidance and support.













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Mental health fact - Around 20% of people using mental health services have dependent children